On Being Lolita: Spring in the Happy Garden

On Being Lolita: Spring in the Happy Garden

There’s just something about Happy Garden that makes me want to dress up like an Easter egg all spring! When I first saw the print I didn’t care much for it…until I realized something very important. It has massive-tailed, big-cheeked rabbits just like those on my ultimate favourite print, Cherry Berry Bunny! ♥ Now I struggle with an internal tug-of-war between my mind that says, “Don’t spend money on a dress like that! How often will you really wear it?” and my heart that goes, “;_;-♥ But I looooooooves it. I loves it so.”

My little sister was equally on the fence, first deciding she had to have it, then deciding it wasn’t really worth it…and then she realized it has fluffy little Angelic Prettied chicks on it. As much as I adore bunnies, my little sister loves chickens. Especially cute baby chickens. The fact that the matching cardigan’s only decoration is an embroidered chick is almost too much! So we look at the pictures and sigh dreamily over how adorable yet ridiculous it all is.

Although I adore it, my feelings aren’t quite a “must-have-it” level of obsession. There is a degree to which the print reminds me of a tablecloth or bedsheet, something I find both cute and unlikely to make me wear the dress on a regular basis. A whole rainbow of pastels is used in the illustrations of Easter eggs and baby animals, so I know I won’t wear the dress on a regular basis–I generally prefer a less-varied palette. Most importantly, bunnies are not the focus. There are delightful, wonderful fluffy bunnies, but not with the intensity of Cherry Berry Bunny~

If it would have been available sooner, so I would have had the opportunity to wear the print on Easter, perhaps I would have felt more rushed to get it. Now that the holiday has passed, I prefer to look at the advertisements and think about how cute it is. It’s available for purchase from different outlets, but I’m focused on other things. Perhaps Happy Garden will just be a nice springtime dream for me…or maybe when winter comes and things are gloomy, I’ll find myself stalking Yahoo!Japan auctions looking for a burst of sunshine and bunnies.

I hope those bunnies make another appearance! I can’t get enough of their enormous fluffy tails~ ♥

Update: New Comment System

Update: New Comment System

Just a brief update~! I’ve changed the comments from the default Blogger options to the nested system by Disqus. Sometimes readers leave lovely comments that I want to respond to, but due to the non-threaded comment system I don’t have a way to direct my attention to them! I had opted for simply writing “@ name that commented,” but I knew that no-one would be checking back to see if I had responded. I’ve seen the Disqus system in-use on other blogs, and although I don’t completely like its layout it seemed like a workable second option.

Currently I have it set up so that (hopefully!) you don’t have to join Disqus to comment. :3 I tried to enable log-in with Twitter or Yahoo! accounts, but I’m not sure how successful that is.

Feel free to let me know if you have any suggestions! I don’t 100% understand some of the intricacies of Blogger. I’ve been briefly entertaining the thought of moving to a fully-hosted WordPress-powered blog on a separate domain, but I don’t want to make a commitment like that if I’m not having fun and actually making posts here~ We shall see!

On Being Lolita: Your Attention Please …Or Not

On Being Lolita: Your Attention Please …Or Not

A few weeks ago, when I was waiting for a bus, a gentleman approached me and asked what I was wearing. My response in such a situation is always, “Oh, I just like to dress up.” He answered, “Huh. You must like attention.”

This seems to be a common impression of lolita by outsiders. It’s understandable–even a more subdued classic outfit or one in hues other than bright pink stands out in the crowd. When I look out the windows from my office, most people look somewhat the same: jeans and shirts, sometimes black or gray business suits, and the occasional person who lives in sweatpants. It’s rare to see groups in completely identical outfits, but other than very slight changes they seem to wear the same style. This is why I rarely notice what the person who passed me on the street is wearing–my senses are automatically filtering it out. However, the boy with neon pink hair or the girl with a halo of safety pins piercing her left ear catches my eye. Regardless of whether it is intentional or not, anything beyond the norm is attention-grabbing.

However, I don’t wear lolita fashion because I crave attention–and I don’t think most lolita do, either. I’m much happier when I glide through the crowds, passers-by turning a blind eye and pretending that I’m not pink and fluffy, than when there are stares, comments, questions, or blundered attempts at stealth-photography. After all, I’m not dressing up for anyone else–I’m dressing up because I like it!

It takes a certain type of courage to wear lolita fashion, because it isn’t often accepted or even admired. Strangers will puzzle over your “costume,” balk at the mere mention of the fashion’s name–immediately associating the style with the pop-culture interpretation of the famous novel, text candid pictures of you to their friends to ridicule, grumble if your skirt accidentally brushes into them when passing in a narrow corridor, or insult you to your face because you aren’t “fitting in.” Thankfully not all reactions are bad, but you can never gauge who will say or do what when you go where.

However, I’m sure there are some lolita who revel in the attention–whether it is positive or negative–and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Assumptions and stereotypes aren’t a reliable manner of reference, one way or another.

The stranger who approached me at the bus stop didn’t care enough to listen to any explanations on my part, so I let the topic die without protesting. It stuck with me, though, as something I mulled over during my bus ride. I do expect a different level of attention when wearing frills, although I don’t look forward to it. I get the impression that this is a common sentiment, but I can only speak for myself.

Do you wear lolita fashion because you want attention, or do you consider the attention a negative “side-effect” of wearing the style? Do most people you encounter think that you are trying to get attention?

Charming Activities: Poupee Girl

Charming Activities: Poupee Girl

I know that I am not the only lolita who has some level of addiction to Poupée Girl. I joined before there was an English language option, awkwardly attempting to use my ineffectual-at-best Japanese skills to figure out what I could and could not upload. (Due to this I’ve always erred on the side of caution. I don’t want to get brown-boxed!) I eagerly watch the Poupée Girl LiveJournal community on my friendslist, looking to catch news or updates the way some people watch stock information!

I love Poupée Girl because of the clothing focus! I like sifting through other people’s wardrobes–especially if they have beautiful or creative things. I don’t care much about the quality of photos, but I do find myself less-than-inclined to comment or suteki if there is a lot of “junk” in the closet. (That’s a very subjective qualifier, but I don’t think objectivity is always necessary with a game like this.)

I’m not very addicted, though. I’ve never bought jewels even though jewel-only items are tantalizing. I don’t spend a lot of time on the website, and (my constant sadness…) I almost NEVER get perfect attendance. ;_; I think I’ve managed it four times, total, but I’ve been playing Poupée Girl since September 2007. (The last time I had perfect attendance was July 2009… u_u)

This is one of my favourite dress-ups~ ♥ This dress was my “holy grail” for a very, very long time. When it was first released it was very expensive–too many ribbons for my taste! I was lucky when my former roommate bought it for me. Transferring it from her account to mine at a low ribbon cost was tricky and involved very quick timing!

I always skip over closets that have illegal items. Until the doll category was done away with, I used to see action figures and all kinds of other non-fashion-related toys, which seemed “wrong” even though they weren’t officially banned. My biggest pet peeve, however, is when people mispronounce “poupée” as “poopy” instead of “poopay.” The Japanese spelling, “pupe,” ought to be an indication.

I have my account linked on the sidebar of the blog~ I like seeing my poupée greeting me when I check here… even if she’s wearing an outfit I coordinated days ago. I’ve already ruined my chances for perfect attendance in April, but maybe May will be a more auspicious month for me. (Maybe!)

Outfit Snap: Casual Easter Roses

Outfit Snap: Casual Easter Roses

I celebrated Easter with my family on Saturday, because of my work schedule. After some consideration, I decided to also wear lolita to work on Easter Sunday. There would be less people in the office (in fact, I only saw two other people), no chance of clients dropping by unannounced, and little work to be done. I was correct in my assessment–it really was a good day to wear lolita fashion to work! However, I still opted for something casual, instead of formal, on the chance that someone did drop by. As much as I adore being a lolita, I’d prefer to be recognized for my work rather than for my clothing habits.

I wore a beautiful BABY, the Stars Shine Bright skirt that was a gift from my little sister, but I paired it with a shirt and cardigan that I usually wear with my jeans. I usually don’t consider frilly knee-socks to be casual, because they attract a lot of attention. After considering tights I decided against them because I wanted to keep more pink in the outfit–also, I own a pair of pink socks with white roses in the pattern, and they seemed like a good choice to pair with the skirt.

Casually Pink

This picture was taken outside in the rain. The day started off beautifully. My husband surprised me at my office and took me out on a date! ♥ We were able to go to a restaurant we’d been considering but avoiding due to long waits. Well, on Easter Sunday that wasn’t a problem at all. However, when we were finished eating it started to rain! My husband evidently thought that this meant no pictures, but I am determined. He obligingly took a few when we got home before shooing me inside.

I hope everyone else enjoyed Easter, if you celebrated it! ♥ Next year I want to attend an Easter egg hunt~ Maybe I’ll try to take the Sunday off.

Outfit Snap: Times Three!

Outfit Snap: Times Three!

I’ve been procrastinating too much! I finally stopped caving into excuses and wore my finery this weekend. Besides lolita fashion, my closet is boooooooring. I absolutely-positively-definitely-completely-utterly hate clothes shopping. When I’ve been ignoring my frilly clothing for a while, I start to get into a mindset where I think that I don’t have time or energy for the effort of wearing lolita…even though it isn’t true! It doesn’t take me very long at all, and the resulting good mood is worth it ten times over~ ♥

After going through my camera when I got home on Saturday, I realized I hadn’t even posted my pictures from St. Patrick’s Day in mid-March. (Whoops!) It’s not too much of a loss–they’re not very good pictures. I went to see the St. Patrick’s Day parade on the Saturday before the actual holiday. My little sister met me, and we coordinated in almost-identical green plaid. I wore my green plaid hairbow and jumperskirt from BABY, the Stars Shine Bright, and she wore a suit-jacket and skirt set from BtSSB. We thought the plaid was identical, but upon further inspection it’s juuuuuust slightly different. (Still a little bit disappointing.)

St. Patrick's Day

I kept hearing rumors about awesome weather on Friday, and luckily they turned out to be true! I took it as an opportunity to wear my Twinkle Tartan skirt. I absolutely adore tartan, but pink is always sold out by the time I am ready to buy. I was lucky to purchase this skirt off a girl I know–and it’s such a lovely pink that I couldn’t be more satisfied!

Bows and Sneakers

The clip-on pochette is the best part, in my opinion. I have dismal luck with purses. Unless it’s attached to me, I’m probably going to leave it behind. This is one of the reasons that, when wearing my “normal” clothing, I wear a jacket even in ridiculously warm weather–without coat pockets, I don’t know where to put my stuff. The case that clips onto this skirt is the perfect size to hold all of my necessities. Since it’s attached to me, I can’t easily leave it behind, either! Win-win situation~

I tried a new style with my hair. I’ve been seeing twin buns more frequently, although usually of the teased and Mickey-Mouse-ear-esque variety, so I thought I’d give it a shot. I discovered that I have so much hair that I have to carefully form cinnamon-bun-like structures, pinning as I go, or the weight pulls it right out! x_x I kept trying to just wrap them like a “normal” bun, only to watch everything unloop and droop down as soon as the second elastic was secure.

Hair Rolls

This was also an excuse to wear my new glittery pink sneakers! My mother spotted these when we were at Old Navy. (Unfortunately, they don’t have these listed on the website, only the graphic sneakers! Such a shame!) The store we were at didn’t have my size, but another one we passed later that day did. I hadn’t worn them yet, since I don’t own a lot of things that go with sneakers. Originally I planned to wear my white tea party shoes, but my husband suggested the sneakers–a very good suggestion! They’re the same colour as the glitter stripe in Twinkle Tartan! ♥ So cool!!

To accommodate my work schedule, my family celebrated Easter on Saturday. I wanted to dress up, but didn’t want something over the top. (Okay, that’s not true. I wanted something over the top–I was thinking pink Easter bunny–but wanted to respect the fact that not everyone else shares my enthusiasm for such silly things.)

Several months ago my little sister gave me an Innocent World jumperskirt in a dusty pink hue. It matches hers, which is black. I hadn’t worn it yet, because it’s a shade of pink that doesn’t exist elsewhere in my closet. When browsing through my closet–I had thought to wear a non-lolita sundress–it caught my attention. The lilac-tinted pink reminds me of flowers and Easter eggs. Coincidentally it was the same shade as the hopping bunny wind-up toy in my Easter basket~ ♥

Easter Frills

The off-white cardigan was also from my little sister…so her kind generosity provided my Easter outfit. n_~ I think I should find an extra-special birthday present for her this year–I’d hate to have her think she’s under-appreciated. If only I could actually buy her a chicken…

Daily Life: Little Happinesses

Daily Life: Little Happinesses

Lately it’s been too easy for me to feel frustrated and stressed out. Instead of wallowing in unpleasant thoughts, I want to focus on the good things. (My life is really not that bad, seriously. I feel frustrated when I hear people complaining on-and-on about how terrible and difficult everything is for them if they are generally well, so I don’t want to be hypocritical.) I’ve been feeling very guilty about neglecting to make entries here, so at least this is a little push in the right direction.

Glitter Glitter Sneakers

Some of My Favourite Little Happinesses:

  • Wearing lace-topped knee socks to the office on Sundays
  • Getting another stamp on my Beard Papa’s punch card
  • Rainbow-coloured Easter bread from Central Continental Bakery
  • Sunlight reflected off my pink glittery sneakers
  • Being woken up by wheeking guinea pigs
  • Emailing my mother funny animated YouTube videos
  • Checking to see what is and isn’t sold-out on the Angelic Pretty website
  • Daydreaming about cuddling an usakumya
  • Looking at beautiful Volks Nono pictures on Flickr
  • Rolling around on the floor of my sparsely-furnished home
  • …Even better if my little sister has initiated the rolling
  • Having friends over to drink tea and bake cupcakes
  • Hopping onto the #8 at last-minute notice to visit my little sister
  • Poking my husband in the ribs
  • Picking up neatly-pressed lolita clothing from the dry cleaners
  • Fantasy-shopping on FredFlare for all the things I’ll never buy
  • Watching “my penguin” at the zoo
  • Changing the music in my little brother’s car
  • Eating fancy-schmancy overpriced waffles from the shop where they scream at you
  • Hearing my grandmother’s voice over the phone change when she realizes it’s me
  • Staring at my wedding ring and remembering how lucky I am

What are some of the things you are happy because of? ♥ I’m sure that everyone puts significance on different “little” things. I need to be a better Alice and pay more attention to mine!

On Being Lolita: Why Not Every Day?

On Being Lolita: Why Not Every Day?

Whenever someone asks me if I “dress like that” every day, I wish I could say, “♥★♥★♥YES!♥★♥★♥” (Even better if a shower of sparkles could emanate from me in a halo~)

Unfortunately, that’s not the case, no matter how many stars I implore. I used to tell myself that it’s because I can’t afford to wear lolita fashion on a daily basis–I can’t afford to buy enough garments to outfit me for more than a few days, and I can’t afford the time and cost launder them properly. I would tell myself that I’d worry too much about ruining my nicest clothes–I can’t wear it every day for practicality. I used to say that I didn’t have time to get dressed up on a daily basis–I can’t wear lolita fashion every day because it would take too long. I’d insist that wearing lolita constantly would be tiring–I can’t put forth the effort. I’d think of all these excuses and convince myself that there was something about me that meant prevented me from doing what I wanted to do.

Sometimes, you have to make a choice–do I wear what I want or do I wear what is accepted/appropriate/expected? As much as it would be fun to always wear what I want, I make many clothing decisions based on the wants of other people. My job doesn’t have a strict dress code, but all the same I can’t wear a formal lolita coordination in my style. My clients and coworkers have expectations about what is to be worn at work–and even if I could explain to them what the fashion is and what it means to me, it would add another layer of connotations and impressions of me. I want those who interact with me to remember me for my work ethic and disposition–not for being “the weird girl.”

Similarly, I don’t wear lolita to class. I’m studying at business school, hoping to enter a field that is very conservative and traditional. I certainly wouldn’t be hired if I wore lolita fashion to a job interview, and because of this I don’t wear lolita fashion to class on a regular basis. Sometimes I just can’t help myself–especially if I’m taking a class that is an elective as opposed to required for my specialization–but usually I try to dress like my classmates. My professors and any special guests that might come to the class are all potential business contacts; I want their impressions of me to be free of biases due to my clothing habits.

Some people would consider my actions to be cowardly, conformist, or weak–and for the most part, I agree. After all, it takes quite a bit of courage to be true to yourself even when outside forces are against you. However, it is hard to make and act upon a decision to restrain or unfurl yourself, regardless of the final choice. If I wore lolita fashion constantly, I know that it would close doors to different choices in my life. I make a choice to limit my self-expression to avoid limiting my opportunities, but I’d much rather have both than one or the other; I want to be a constantly complete “me.”

However, I can’t guarantee that I will want to wear lolita fashion forever. I won’t make decisions based only on that aspect if I have to endure the future consequences after things have changed. With this constantly in mind, it’s a bit confusing to maintain a balance in my life of enjoying the things I want to do and working at the things I have to do. (If only they were one and the same!)

I greatly admire those who wear lolita fashion (or any alternative fashion!) on a daily basis. Putting your frilliest foot forward isn’t simple. Some people will fawn over your expression; others will chide or exclude you. It takes a lot of courage to overcome hurdles and withstand biases that would be otherwise nonexistent if only you’d change your clothes!

Sometimes I consider revising my goals, so that I could wear lolita fashion every day. If I aimed for a different career, applied for a new job, and transferred to another school, it would remove some of the restrictions on my clothing choices. Would that really be the right thing to do? Not for me. If I must compromise, it will be on my clothing, not my future–that is how my priorities are arranged. Despite this decision, I still worry that at some point that wearing lolita fashion will have a negative impact on my career… but not enough to stop wearing it.

Almost everything in life is best when there is a balance. This is how mine is working out, at least for now. I can’t even imagine what will happen ten years from now!

Outfit Snap: Honey Chai Cherry Rose

Outfit Snap: Honey Chai Cherry Rose

Honey Chai Cupcake

I was only able to dress up one day of my weekend~ Friday involved work in our apartment that kept the door open and absolutely froze everything inside. Thankfully everything went well, so Saturday was all mine for the enjoying–and with actual working heat, no less! I had another lolita over, although she didn’t wear lolita fashion when she came over, but since I met her at a lolita meetup I think it’s a fair enough title. Lolita fashion wasn’t at all the focus of our day together–I was excited that she brought some of her dolls! ♥

I was also excited to wear a dress that I’d been wanting to wear! My little sister and I worked out a not-quite-a-sale-but-not-quite-a-swap transaction amidst the wardrobe collective, and I was thrilled to find that one of the pieces under discussion was a dress I’d been hoping for~ Despite my typical indifference to prints, I think BABY makes some lovely older prints. This dress has a gorgeous design of flowers and cherries that remind me of a painting~ Paired with the bell sleeves, rarely seen in the newer collections for the lolita fashion brands, it stole my heart. ♥

It’s a lovely dress, made of a textured, soft fabric that is extremely comfortable. I know it’s trying to wedge its way into my list of favourites–I can already tell. I coordinated it with plain white lace-topped socks (well, there is a design up the back, but it’s invisible here). I wanted to wear a more detailed pair, since I own two pairs of pink socks that have rose motifs, but I couldn’t decide if they looked alright. The ribbons in my hair were given to me by a friend–they’re from another BABY item, and they matched those on the one-piece perfectly! ♥

I hope I can keep up this trend! I’m already having so much fun; it’s nice to know everything is being put to use~

The Pink Cherry Bouquet
Outfit Snap: Sweet Pink Weekend

Outfit Snap: Sweet Pink Weekend

I really intend to post these outfit snaps earlier than I do, ideally on the day I take the pictures, but I tend to get rather side-tracked. This past weekend (my weekend is Friday & Saturday, because I work on Sunday) I decided to wear lolita fashion both days. I feel pretty good about keeping up with actually wearing my clothing more frequently in 2010~ I really adore lolita, but it seems that the less frequently I wear it, the more likely it is that negative feelings will start to creep up on me. Getting dressed up dispels all that in an instant!

Can't Think of a Title

On Friday I opted for something more casual. For me, a casual outfit is one in which I don’t wear my lolita coat over it when I go out. If I wear it with my normal coat, it’s casual. I feel that a skirt and cardigan is pretty casual, unless you take the time to accentuate the rest of the coordinate. It would have been a bit less casual if I had worn a proper blouse, with the blouse’s collar laid over the cardigan’s collar, but even then my cardigan doesn’t have a very formally lolita look to it.

I actually wore this to clean my house! I got into a cleaning kick that day and scrubbed the place from top to bottom–including the baseboards in the bathroom, which were really icky! x_x So much hair, and almost all of it mine! I hadn’t noticed due to the dark floor…

Fluffy Dress and Hair

On Saturday, I dressed up more formally, even though I didn’t attend the local meetup. (I really should have gone–everyone told me it was a lot of fun! I didn’t even have a good excuse; just decided to stay home. My husband’s ankle still isn’t 100% better, and I didn’t want to ditch him at home while I had fun. But he certainly wouldn’t have objected to my going, and it would have been more affordable for just me.)

Although I adore Angelic Pretty, my heart doesn’t belong to extravagant prints and bright pop colours. I love their garments with exquisite trim and interesting design elements. I like pintucks, ruffles, scalloped edges, bows, laces, and ribbons~ ♥ I also adore soothing pastels and solid-colour dresses~ My second outfit that weekend was chosen in homage to these elements of sweet lolita that I love.

I wore a long-sleeved blouse from BABY, the Stars Shine Bright under an Angelic Pretty one-piece. I really enjoy coordinating blouses with one-pieces–as long as the one-piece has a square or sweetheart neckline, the peeking collar of a Peter Pan blouse really changes the appearance! I also love gathered sleeves, with the bands of elastic that “poof” the sleeve at different points down the arm. It really reminds me of the outfits more common in older issues of the Gothic & Lolita Bible.

Mallowtastic Snuggles

I accessorized my hair, extra-wavy and poofy from the braids I had worn the previous day, with a large bow. I wish I owned a pink headdress–if I had, I would have worn that! I really love headdresses, even though they are so unpopular nowadays~ ♥ A headdress would have increased the “old-school” elements of this outfit. So would extremely-decorated pink platform shoes, or rocking-horse ballerinas~! (Unfortunately, I own neither AND wore my snowboots that day.)

And, I carried Mallow. I didn’t take pictures with him on his strap, as a proper pochette, but just some silly ones. I really enjoyed taking them! The final image is my favourite–I wish it had turned out clearer so I could make an icon or something~ ♥ Even if I am ever lucky enough to acquire an usakumya, I will still adore my pochette. He’s so sweet and tiny~ I’d love to have a pochette-picnic with my friends, since several of them own the same bunny! Maybe someday…

Alice ♥ Mallow